What To Do When You Are On The Edge

3 Things To Remember

It’s that time of the year again – the San Diego County Fair is up and running.  It is always a great time for our family.  Fried twinkies, chocolate covered bacon, krispy kreme donut chicken sandwiches – you know all those “healthy” food choices we somehow talk ourselves into eating because, “Hey – it’s the fair!” One of the areas at the fair that I enjoy spending time, is standing under the bungee jump!  I could be there for hours, watching people go up in that little basket, standing out on the edge, deciding if they should take the plunge or not.  The decision to bungee jump always seems like a good one in the company of the familiar, but once suspended a few hundred feet in the air, all alone, it’s a different story.

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One of these days I am going to try it but for now I enjoy watching.  This year is no exception – I stand there, my neck craned upward as I waited for someone to jump out of the basket that is suspended in what seems to be thousands of feet in the air.  However, the disappointment comes when you stand looking up for an extended period of time, getting a crick in your neck, and the individual will not jump.  They stay on the edge of the platform and refuse to take the plunge.  You always feel a little upset that they didn’t go through with it and lost the opportunity to hear the approval of the crowd below.

As I stood there looking up into the sun waiting for the individual to jump, I was reminded of how often we stand on the edge of opportunities in our life, refusing to take the plunge because of uncertainties or the unexpected.  If we are not careful we can spend our lives constantly standing on the edge, afraid of the unknown or waiting around for someone to give us a push before we venture out of the “proverbial boat” and walk on the water.

When standing on the edge here are a few things to remember that may help you take that next step:

  1. UNCERTAINTIES ABOUND It doesn’t matter if you are 15 or 45, you are going to have uncertainties about that next step.  There will NEVER be an opportune moment to do what you are feeling called to do.  You can not wait for the “atmosphere” to be just right, you have to take the next step.  You can live your life with excuses that keep you from going to the next level or you can do what so many have done before you and step out into the possibilities that await.
  2. AT SOME POINT YOU HAVE TO JUMP If you don’t you will never know if you can make it.  One of the challenges we often face is that the next step seems like it leads to nothing but open air under our feet.  FAITH is required to step out of the comfort and the security that you have become so accustomed to and take that leap that propels you into the unknown.  It is often said that you will never know till you try.  I remember in high school wanting to join the wrestling team.  Now, I know what you are thinking – WHAT?  A one armed wrestler?  You bet!!  I remember the feeling of, “what if I don’t make the team or what if the coach laughs at me or what if the cheerleaders cheer for my opponent!?”  I decided to go for it and guess what?  I made the team and succeeded at it also.  I remember winning matches that finished with the other guy crying because he was beaten by a one-armed guy!  Not something you want to go home and tell your dad at the dinner table.  I loved it.  I loved the challenge and I loved the lessons wrestling taught me, but had I never took the leap to try out, I would have never known the taste of overcoming.  It set the precedent for my life and I will forever be grateful for those experiences. The first step is the most important one but it is also the most fearful.  Trust that what has been placed in your heart is worth the risk and go for it.  This leads me to my next point.
  3. IF YOU FAIL, TRY AGAIN!  The possibilities of failure are certain but it is in failure that we often become stronger and wiser.  Failure is the best teacher in the world because it forms something in us that solidifies our resolve if we allow it to. History is replete with people who kept at it even when failure continued to raise its ugly head.  It was the failure that spurred greatness in their lives.  Don’t look at failure as something that is final!  Failure is the necessary ingredient that forges fortitude in you as a human being.

I believe that in each of you is a destiny unlike any other that is just waiting on you to take the leap of faith.  The world is waiting for someone like you to provide answers they are so desperately looking for.  It may be a business or a book but it’s inside of you just waiting to come out!  Go for it! Don’t stand on the edge and give up!

~Darin

Leaving an Impacting Legacy

Two Keys to Becoming Effective in the Life of Others

It is Memorial Day.  I sit in the living room of my home looking outside at the beautiful foggy San Diego county weather and I am in a contemplative sort of mood.  You know those moods you get in when you have the opportunity to slow down and reflect on life and what is going on around you.

Well, this is one of those days and seeing that it is Memorial Day – a day of remembering – I am extra reflective.  I am able to sit down with my computer, type away at the keyboard for this post, ready to enjoy the day with my family, and I am free!  I am not worried that some enemy from another country is going to break into my home and take me hostage or hurt my family.  The reason that I feel this way is because there have been countless men and women that have given their lives so that I can have this privilege – so that my family can enjoy life and freedom.  They left a legacy so amazing that it is impacting generations to come.

We owe quite a debt to those that lay down their lives for what we so often overlook and seldom celebrate.  Today I am grateful for the sacrifice made by many so that I can enjoy life, happiness and freedom.  Thanks for the life you lived and the life you gave so that I can have these privileges.

Being in this reflective/contemplative mood also made me begin to ask myself the question – What am I currently doing to leave a legacy that others will look back on and one day reflect on the impact that was made?  How am I viewing the opportunities in my life to change the way people live theirs?

We all get selfish!  Admit it – go ahead – we do!  We live the majority of our lives thinking about US!  What am I getting out of this?  Where am I going in my life?  Who is going to help me out?  The list could go on but if the truth were told – true significance comes from how I spend my life in helping others.  Real worth of living is discovered in the impact made in the lives of those that you have a chance to influence.

I have had the distinct privilege of being around some great people in my life.  I prayed early in my twenties that God would allow me to have the opportunity to be influenced by great men that have spent their lives investing in others.  Their influence has helped shaped the individual I am today and I am grateful.  I want to return the favor as I move through this life by doing two things.  These two principles are simple yet important.  To leave a legacy we must be willing to:

  • SPEND OUR TIME INVESTING IN OTHERS – don’t be afraid to take the time to invest in the life of someone near you.  Time is a precious commodity but the time spent in reaching out to others pays massive dividends that you cant put a price tag on.
  • ALLOW OUR STORY TO IMPACT OTHERS – We all have a story and it is unique to you.  A life map of where we have been and what we experienced along the way.  As I get older and recognize the season of life I am in, the more I recognize the lessons I have learned from the things I have been through!  Those lessons can help impact someone if you are able and willing to relate it in the correct way.  I have often stated – there can be no impact without contact!  So many go through things griping and complaining about the struggle instead of picking up lessons that need to be learned in those difficult times and sharing it with others.  The lessons discovered in struggle and difficulty are the building blocks of impact and influence. (TWEET THIS)

So I guess what I am saying on this Memorial Day is – go out and make a difference in someone’s life.  It is really rewarding and I promise you – someone, somewhere is going to someday remember you and be thankful for you and the impact you made in their lives!

~Darin

Featured Podcast

Today I am featured on Mark Alan Williams‘ podcast.  Mark is a dear friend of mine and for the last year we have been in a platform building mastermind.  During this time I have found Mark to be one of the most genuine people I have ever met.  He asked me awhile back if I would be a guest on his podcast and of course I said yes.

Click on the link or the image below to be taken to the podcast..  Enjoy!

http://www.markalanwilliams.net/2016/02/04/podcast-how-can-i-overcome-physical-challenges-and-thrive/

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Some Early Morning Thoughts

It has been a little over a month and a half that The Point church has launched out into a new future. Now we are having church in a nice auditorium with tons of room to grow and expand into what God has called us to do here in North County San Diego. It is exciting and frightening all at the same time. Exciting in the fact that we are moving forward – going after the possibilities that God has in store for the church and frightening knowing that everyday is a new walk of faith and this requires a continual trust that God is in control.

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Let’s face it: As human beings we tend to get comfortable in the status quo neglecting to realize at times what God is calling us to do, which is to continue to press toward the mark by reaching, teaching, preaching, praying and believing that with God all things are possible.

I cannot think of a better life! To live and truly not live is a tragedy above all tragedies. God placed us on this earth to thrive – in fact He called us to an abundant life. Not too long ago I sent out this tweet & Instagram post that read:

“Live life in such a way that people want what you are living”

This is my desire! This is what I want for every individual that I am privileged to lead! This is what I want for my kids! To live and live with great influence and impact as a child of God is our greatest privilege!

Enjoy your day! I have a feeling it is going to be a great one…

~DS

Happy Thanksgiving!

I wanted to wish each of you a very happy Thanksgiving and trust you get to enjoy this day with family and friends. Thank you for your continued support here on my blog. I pray the rest of your year is outstanding!

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May God richly bless you,

Darin Sargent

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